Last night I participated in an awesome CS potluck. It was a themed party (Djibouti food themed), which was intriguing. Most of the people who cooked theme food used the same website, but we managed to not have any repeat recipes. (I was excited to cook and made Djibouti vegetable stew!) Music, fire, chats about everything, a couple of videos and a late night meant yesterday evening was a lot of fun.
I decided to continue with my plans to stay with a different CS host starting today. So, this morning, after sleeping in I said my good byes and left the farm behind. At 10a.m. I met up with Sky and Debra (two CSers I met yesterday) to head out hiking. We arrive at around 11:30 and hiked until about 3:30. It was awesome. More awesome than the hike was the conversations with my awesome company. We talked about a lot of mundane and philosophical things. One thing that really hit home was Sky's definition of love: complete respect, trust and attractions. I find this to be a great definition.
We also discussed open relationships and polyamory. All three of us have been participants in open relationships. But there are fine lines between polyamory and simply open relationships. Polyamory means you are in love with multiple people at the same time. I feel like polyamory is the reality that we all face in our relationships, but social rules require that we deny ourselves from loving more than one person. I think it is possible, I would say natural, that we can love more than one person at a time. I also do not feel that we need to spend all of our time with one person to show them our love. I also believe that those relationships can be taken to a physical level with multiple people and that we should not be made to feel guilty for expressing our attractions to people in this manner. This was my philosophical realization for today, spurred by the CSers I was with. * I should add an amendment to these statements because my husband took them in a way that I did not mean. I do not necessarily believe that we should be allowed to be in multiple loving relationships and have to split our time between all the people involved. I simply believe that the reality of things is that even when we are in a relationship we fall in love with other people.
I also had a critique of my documentary by Sky. A lot of you know how I take critiques, which is in stride but a tad resentfully. He made a good point though. It is the point I just made; CS is about the people and the community. So, my film should be more about people, on a deeper level than just the questions I had thought up. So, I've decided to take it in a different directions. More focused on the community side, such as the potlucks and the hikes and the tours of the city. :) I've also decided that my trip has become too structured. As my friend Michael put it, structured is not my style. I need to go with the flow more. So, I will continue to follow the path that I've currently laid out, maybe taking out Minneapolis and Indianapolis because I'm not much interested in them, but maybe not, I'll decide in Cincinnati. Probably taking out Seattle and San Francisco too. I'm adding Albuquerque so that Michael and I can hike the La Luz. I've also decided that I want to hike the rim of the Grand Canyon. Which means this whole trip just got a lot more awesome. :) It makes me even more excited than I originally was, which is hard to do, haha.
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